Tuesday, August 5, 2008
Troy Edison Yaw was a journalist or that is what I know about him. He is involved in sports journalism when I first met him about a year ago. Now in this article he shares what student fears every time classes begins and gives some points on how to get over those fears. He presents 5 cases of the students worst nightmare.Start A New Beginning: A Look at the 5 Crisis of a Student
by: Troy Yaw
Did you feel angry, frustrated, or even wanted to cry at times for your errors and blunders last school year? Moreover, were you embarrassed in front of your peers (class & schoolmates), teachers, even neighbors, and relatives for your incapability to make things right when they matter the most in your student life? Well, this month of June, school opening beckons and it's time again to forget the worst things that have transpired in the past and look for the great things that lie ahead. You're due to make a fresh start since starting anew is never, ever too late, no matter what people say, no matter what you feel, and no matter what you've done. You'll need to have the determination to rise from your emotional devastation no matter how severe it is. Make the sheer commitment to yourself to boost and regain your pride and self-esteem, both of which are essential for you to eventually finish this race called "Being a Student" and reach the finish line called "Graduation."
Crisis 1: "I was always late in my classes last year."
Remember that 'the early bird gets the worm.' This may be a little irrelevant to the solution of the problem but making it to your classes early or on time requires discipline. Lots of it. Doing so is training you for the future when you're already in the professional/working environment. To be an early bird, one has to have the right attitude. Think that reaching your class before the bell rings is not in vain since you're implementing self-training. Consider it an accomplishment when you don't arrive late for class and celebrate when you've overcome tardiness. If you're driving your car and yet you're often late, try commuting to evade the traffic. If your problem's your place's too far from your college/university, try looking for a temporary place to transfer in like a dormitory or you may even settle in a friend's or relative's place by making an arrangement with them. If it's still not viable, try all your best to rise up early, prepare, and leave for school and hope that someday, this predicament of yours will end.
Crisis 2: "I was expelled from my former school and have to transfer to another, and I'm still hurt by it."
Move on. There's nothing you can do about the past. No one could turn back time. We're always ever-progressing. Never destroy your life. According to the great possibility-thinking author Dr. Robert H. Schuller, each one of us has to preserve positive pride to AFFIRM our dignity, PROTECT our dignity, RESTORE our dignity, and SUSTAIN our dignity. Not doing so, and you're as good as dead, which is not the right thing. What you should do is associate and surround yourself with positive people and the interpersonal relationships will mutually affirm and reaffirm each person's dignity. Avoid negative words such as 'impossible' (It's impossible for me to recover.) and 'lost' (I lost my dignity.). Consider them taboos. Mentioning and dwelling on them drains out positive energy and all enthusiasm leaks out. Regardless whether you were involved in either a 'sex scandal' or a 'game-fixing fiasco' previously, you should move on. At least you're not behind bars or lifelessly buried 6 feet under the ground. Otherwise, you won't be reading this. Start doing good things to yourself and other people. Offer help to your new schoolmates. Join an org. Inject new life to your little environment. Volunteer for charities. Let good deeds pile up and one-by-one, the state of being embarrassed and humiliated disintegrates. Create camaraderie. Redeem yourself by all means. Start a new beginning by planting new seeds and establishing new bonds with folks.
Crisis 3: "I tried for the try-outs last year and didn't make it."
Whatever endeavor it was you wanted to join, be it playing in sports such as basketball, soccer, or volleyball, or an extra-curricular activity like singing in the choir, dancing for the cheerleading team, or contributing write-ups for the school paper or a magazine like BOUNCE, the need to practice is always important. When others are partying and spending their time unproductively, you should be honing whatsoever skills for that specific field you're aiming to enter. Always go for your dream. Shoot hoops when your peers are barhopping at the Fort or checking out new movies in their favorite mall/s like Rockwell or Glorietta. Improve your English vocabulary by reading books, and writing your own articles/essays when your buddies are hanging out in online gaming shops beating each other out in Dota or Warcraft. Give your chosen field your utmost focus. Quit focusing on your adversities and disabilities and start focusing on the possibilities and opportunities. Seize the moment and take action now or the opportunity may never come again. Be decisive and make up your mind by making a decision. Don't be afraid to try. If all your effort's still not enough to bag you a slot, then always note that there's pride in at least trying.
Crisis 4: "I'm subject of gossips in school and I might be again this year. How I wish I could transfer to another school."
Accept that whatever you reaped, you sowed prior to the harvest. Take responsibility in it but always know that you're not ruined as long as you still got people who believe in you. People won't say you're done if you keep on moving on. They won't say you're dead if you keep getting back up. At least consider that gossips or (false) rumors/lies about you aren't publicized in newspapers or talked about on the TV or radio. You don't have it the way others do.
Gossipers would always be around, in all shapes and sizes. Nevertheless, remember that whatever we've done to others will come back to us. Remember the saying, 'What goes around comes around?' They that spread false stories will someday be victims themselves.
Crisis 5: "I failed this subject twice already and I'll be taking it the third time this year."
Admit that you need help. This particular subject's probably your weakness. However, remember that if your fellow classmates and batch mates can enroll in that particular subject and pass their first take, then you should be able to! Take note that probably most of them also had a hard time with it like you. They probably barely passed it with a mere 75% (3.0) score. Try befriending classmates who're good in your least favorite subject or the one you're struggling with the most and ask them to help you. Organizing a group-study would definitely benefit you. Usually, fellow students are willing to help so don't be shy or hesitate to approach them for tips. Be humble and seek tutelage from them. Also avoid skipping classes for this particular subject so as you could always update yourself about the topics lectured. Don't get frustrated. It's all in the mind. If you keep on encountering the same professor, then it won't be bad if you try to discuss your concern/s with him/her regarding the subject. Your teacher would surely be giving you a handful of advice for you to pass the curriculum. Nothing's impossible!